‘Recovery is possible, no matter what’
Sophia Hatzis thought she could never get better. A combination of writing, hitting the gym, playing rugby and adopting a new outlook changed that.
Sophia Hatzis was diagnosed with anorexia at the age of 13, an illness that “completely consumed her”, resulted in hospitalisation and contributed to eventual additional diagnoses of anxiety and depression.
“Mealtimes were just hell in our household,” she recounted, as she would refuse to eat, lying and manipulating her way around consumption. By her own admission, she stopped being a good friend and daughter in the process.
“I’ve learned a lot in the nine years since then, but it wasn’t like I became anorexic and I got treated and I got over it. It’s been a long, long process of recovery.”
The impact of eating disorders on young people
Speaking recently on The Wellness Daily Show, Ms Hatzis – a law and journalism graduate who also works as a digital content producer – explained that the relationship one has with an eating disorder is more than what you simply see in the mirror on a daily basis.
“For me, my eating disorder consumed every single moment of every single day of my life. It was everything from feeling my body the moment that I woke up to being, my thoughts being completely consumed about when the next opportunity I was going to have to exercise would be, or what I was going to eat next or how I was going to sort of mould my day around making myself fitter or healthier or stronger or better,” she reflected.
“When you do look in the mirror and when you look at photos of yourself, you do get reminded of your insecurities. For me, a lot of that was just around every single part of my body. There was nothing that I was happy with. There was nothing that I was satisfied with. I was just always left with this sense that I wasn’t enough and that I needed to do more and that I needed to continue on this path, whatever that path was.”
“It was a really, really challenging time looking at yourself every day and realising that you weren’t what you wanted, feeling your body every day and being reminded that you weren’t at whatever place you wanted to be at.”
In the years from her initial diagnosis at the age of 13 through to when she went to university, Ms Hatzis said there were periods where her eating disorder wasn’t as severe and she was living “a normal life by anyone else’s standards”, she noted, but on the inside, the behavioural patterns were still there.
It wasn’t until 2015, when she started her law and journalism degrees at the University of Technology, Sydney, that something changed for her.
“About April of that year, I was getting really sick again. I was going down a really negative path with my eating and my exercise and I was starting to get really consumed again by my eating disorder. And I had this moment, I remember it so clearly, I was finished with uni for the day, and my boyfriend was there at the time, and we decided that we would go out to Chinatown.”
“I was just so nervous about what food was going to be available and what I was going to eat. I just was walking down Chinatown in Sydney and I turned to him and I said, ‘I can’t do this anymore. This can’t be my life forever. I need help’,” she said.
From that point on, Ms Hatzis explained, she was serious and ready to turn things around.
“It was something that I was actively seeking to better my life. And recovery was something I wanted rather than something I thought was never going to be possible for me.”
Solutions and strategies
Writing about her experience and offering advice to others was a “really cathartic” avenue through which Ms Hatzis could take stock of her experiences and learn from them – most notably though her blog, The Beauty Breakdown, aimed at teenage girls.
“It’s always been a way to articulate problems and get them out of my head and onto paper. So, it was kind of a combination of something that I needed for myself but also that I thought was going to be really potentially valuable to other people,” she said.
“And it ended up being something that wasn’t just about eating disorders, but was also about the anxiety that I had experienced and the depressive moments that I had gone through and how I was sort of learning to get over that and be kind to myself.”
Elsewhere, the gym has “really transformed my sense of self and self-confidence”, she continued, while noting that enjoyment of lifting weights and high-intensity workouts was a slow burn.
“The exercise was often painful for really long periods of time. And I was doing movement that I really hated, but I was doing it because I felt like it was what I had to do to achieve the goal, which was to lose weight.
“My boyfriend really taught me that exercise can have a different purpose, and that you don’t need to punish yourself in the gym or outside the gym and you can find the kind of movement that’s right for you. My family was concerned when I first started recovery that getting into the gym was going to be a problem for me because they were worried that it was going to be all about aesthetics.”
“I won’t sit here and say that that didn’t come into my mind at the start, but over time and over the last couple of years, it’s really just been a place where I’ve been able to feel really comfortable, and I’ve gotten stronger over that time, and it’s really become a place where I feel safe and where I feel good about myself and where I can really realise what my body is capable of.”
Finally, discovering rugby was hugely influential in ensuring there was no turning back, Ms Hatzis said.
“I think it’s given me a real appreciation for fitness in a bit of a different light. But mostly, I think it’s been separate from the body and it’s been more about the community and the value of having those friendships that are extremely tight.
“The friendships that you develop on the rugby field in training are very different to the ones that you, this is my experience, that I’ve had in other aspects of my life, and we all really respect each other.”
Advice for young people experiencing similar issues
When asked how best young people, particularly students, can help stave off the mental health issues that she suffered up until the early stages of her tertiary education, Ms Hatzis said it is fundamentally important for young people to feel that their body “is more than just what it looks like”.
“If you’re surrounded by the proper support networks who want to develop you and want to make sure that you feel strong and that you feel fit and healthy, those are the people that you want to seek out.”
When she was going through the darkest moments of her life – when she thought “this was going to be my future forever” – she wholeheartedly believed that, she recounted.
“I believed that this was how I was always going to be, that I was always going to be anorexic, that I was always going to be depressed. [But] it does get better, and recovery is possible for you no matter what. I never believed that recovery was going to be possible for me. I thought recovery was something that happened to other people,” she said.
“But now, I’m in a place, and you’ve seen this development over time as well, where I just, sometimes I’m really astounded by the changes that I’ve made in my life. And I think about, for example, going out to breakfast and going out to dinner would have been absolutely impossible for me seven years ago. Going to the gym would have been absolutely impossible for me seven years ago.”
“Now, it’s just part of my normal life. You can get better. You can. It’s possible.”
To listen to Jerome’s full conversation with Sophia Hatzis, click below:
Jerome Doraisamy is a senior writer for Lawyers Weekly and Wellness Daily at Momentum Media.
Before joining the team in early 2018, Jerome is admitted as a solicitor in New South Wales and, prior to joining the team in early 2018, he worked in both commercial and governmental legal roles and has worked as a public speaker and consultant to law firms, universities and high schools across the country and internationally. He is also the author of The Wellness Doctrines self-help book series and is an adjunct lecturer at The University of Western Australia.
Jerome graduated from the University of Technology, Sydney with a Bachelor of Laws and Bachelor of Arts in Communication (Social Inquiry).
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